New Years always signals the time of year when I along with athletes of all types begin planning our upcoming racing season as well as setting new personal goals. This year it has been a more difficult task then in the past. I think it is because I went through December with too many unanswered questions to think much about the new year ahead. So here I am, 1 week late working on my New Year's Resolutions.
This week my resolution was simple. Finish my New Year's Resolutions and survive the first week back to school.
So, I started by reading A LOT. While this actually started out as procrastination, it turns out I read some excellent articles, which helped me finalize some goals for 2015. Here are links to a few of the best ones I read and highly recommend to others.
15 Damaging Myths About Life We Should All Stop Believing
This is What Brave Means
Modern Moms Looking for Perfection in All the Wrong Places
Why Being a Mom is Enough
5 Mom-Shaming Trends that Need to Stop Now
The One Thing Christians Should Stop Saying
Modern Moms Looking for Perfection in All the Wrong Places
Why Being a Mom is Enough
5 Mom-Shaming Trends that Need to Stop Now
The One Thing Christians Should Stop Saying
Brene Brown
Here are a few realizations I had as I read......
1. There is no such thing as "perfect". Striving for the unattainable will just leave you feeling frustrated and "not good enough".
2. We are only truly happy if we accept ourselves as we are and then try to be the best version of ourselves. In a nutshell, stop comparing ourselves to others. Be your own measuring stick.
3. Going against the grain might be what is best for us.
4. There is not one definition of a good parent. There are actually many ways in which you can be a good parent. Loving your children (and showing them you love them) and making the best decisions you can is what is most important.
5. Happiness should be the ultimate goal in our lives and worrying about "shoulds" and "what ifs" does not equate to happiness.
6. Focusing on the Negative does not allow room to cultivate and grow the Positive.
7. Use the opportunities set before you to make a difference.
8. It is hard work that results in good fortune.
9. Forgive more.
10. Find enjoyment in the simple things.
I used the basis of what I learned from above to form my goals for 2015. I reserve the right to add to or revise in February when I am more informed regarding my road to recovery.....
1. Write down at least 1 gratitude for each day of the year.
2. Practice patience each day. Along with the gratitude for each day, write down 1 way in which I was patient.
3. Be truly present when spending time with my children. No FB or texting between 4:30 and 7:30 PM.
4. Go to at least 1 country music concert before 2016 maybe more than 1. Music makes me happy.
5. Plan a trip for my family to Disney (Land or World) in December 2015. We have been putting this off for 2 years. It is time to go. Family quality time in December instead of buying thing, purchase experiences.
6. Ride Little Red 100 miles on June 6, 2015. A great way to give back to the fight for women's cancer research. This will be somewhat up to the lottery process. Hoping to ride with Dean's mom, Brenda and Aunt, Julie. If not this road cycling event, find another in which to participate.
7. Run a 5K by the 4th of July (if not on).
8. Do a sprint triathlon in August (Lander?).
9. Ride in the Jurassic Classic in September.
10. Revisit my list of realizations and goal list above at least once a week (more realistically once a month).
Although these are not the grandiose goals I had envisioned several months ago, if I can accomplish them, I think I will truly be through one of the hardest years I have ever experienced in my 35 years. Between having rhabdo and discovering the two holes in my heart in 2014, I have definitely learned NOT to take health, friends, or family for granted.
If all goes well, I hope to be back on track to work towards Xterra National qualification in triathlon in 2016 (originally my 2014 goal).
Here are a few realizations I had as I read......
1. There is no such thing as "perfect". Striving for the unattainable will just leave you feeling frustrated and "not good enough".
2. We are only truly happy if we accept ourselves as we are and then try to be the best version of ourselves. In a nutshell, stop comparing ourselves to others. Be your own measuring stick.
3. Going against the grain might be what is best for us.
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4. There is not one definition of a good parent. There are actually many ways in which you can be a good parent. Loving your children (and showing them you love them) and making the best decisions you can is what is most important.
5. Happiness should be the ultimate goal in our lives and worrying about "shoulds" and "what ifs" does not equate to happiness.
6. Focusing on the Negative does not allow room to cultivate and grow the Positive.
7. Use the opportunities set before you to make a difference.
8. It is hard work that results in good fortune.
9. Forgive more.
10. Find enjoyment in the simple things.
I used the basis of what I learned from above to form my goals for 2015. I reserve the right to add to or revise in February when I am more informed regarding my road to recovery.....
Goals for 2015
1. Write down at least 1 gratitude for each day of the year.
2. Practice patience each day. Along with the gratitude for each day, write down 1 way in which I was patient.
3. Be truly present when spending time with my children. No FB or texting between 4:30 and 7:30 PM.4. Go to at least 1 country music concert before 2016 maybe more than 1. Music makes me happy.
5. Plan a trip for my family to Disney (Land or World) in December 2015. We have been putting this off for 2 years. It is time to go. Family quality time in December instead of buying thing, purchase experiences.
6. Ride Little Red 100 miles on June 6, 2015. A great way to give back to the fight for women's cancer research. This will be somewhat up to the lottery process. Hoping to ride with Dean's mom, Brenda and Aunt, Julie. If not this road cycling event, find another in which to participate.
7. Run a 5K by the 4th of July (if not on).
8. Do a sprint triathlon in August (Lander?).
9. Ride in the Jurassic Classic in September.
10. Revisit my list of realizations and goal list above at least once a week (more realistically once a month).
Although these are not the grandiose goals I had envisioned several months ago, if I can accomplish them, I think I will truly be through one of the hardest years I have ever experienced in my 35 years. Between having rhabdo and discovering the two holes in my heart in 2014, I have definitely learned NOT to take health, friends, or family for granted.
If all goes well, I hope to be back on track to work towards Xterra National qualification in triathlon in 2016 (originally my 2014 goal).
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